He’s Just Not That Into Me


As I type the words & feel the emotions behind the words “He’s Just Not That Into Me” the tears start pouring down my cheeks. Every word I just typed has a deeper meaning. A meaning & a story that I gave it. I attached the meaning to each word.

“He’s Just Not That Into Me” = “I am not enough”

                                                               “There’s something wrong with me”                                                                  

                                                                “I am not loveable”

As I practice self-love & acceptance, I embracing every emotion as it shows up. My practice is to do the inner work to stay in a constant state of bliss.

Bliss is my birthright & I am deserving of it.

Sometime’s to get to the bliss I must work thru the blocks, that I myself have created.

I created the block, it’s my responsibility to remove it if I want to return to my truth, which is LOVE

It’s amazing how when I’m single it’s easy to live in the illusion of a more constant state of bliss. It has been my experience that my inner peace is challenged, as my fears come to surface more when I am in a romantic relationship.

The universe never makes mistakes in delivering me the perfect man to guide me on my healing journey.

I want to clarify that I take full ownership that the healing is mine, the lessons are mine, the limiting beliefs & blocks to love are mine. The other person is just holding up the mirror for me to look deep within & love myself deeper & more purely than I have been.

As I expand my level of awareness, I have immense gratitude for every single person I attract into my life, at any capacity.  We are all here to serve each other. It is a continuous practice for me to release attachment on how long people stay in my life. Not everyone is meant to be in our lives for a lifetime. Some people are just as impactful being in my life for a shorter period of time. Sometimes they are only there to serve one specific purpose & when that act of service is complete, they are meant to move on.

It’s a brilliant practice to keep an open door policy for people to come & go as they please… as long as when you check in with your higher self, it feels like a loving interaction & it serves a loving purpose.  

Loving interactions are a choice for the most part. We get to choose how we perceive people & situations.

Even if the interaction seemed negative at the time I look for the silver lining, the act of service, the hidden lesson they taught me. I appreciate & acknowledge the love I felt in their presence, even if it was brief.

Gratitude & forgiveness has immense healing power & it permeates in every fiber of our being. It even has the power to heal ailments in our body.

If I process the emotion (the reason for the tears rolling down my cheeks), the circumstance becomes quite matter of fact. When someone chooses me to be in their life, they will do whatever it takes to make it work, even though their ego will be wanting to sabotage the bliss.

Especially men, they are hard-wired to hunt & are very diligent in doing whatever it takes to get what they want. It’s a beautiful thing about masculine energy. And quite different to women, men will tell you exactly what they mean. If he is telling you that he doesn’t want a commitment, he means exactly that. He is choosing not to choose you.  Us women tend to speak in code & we also change our mind quite often. Again, these have been studied to be traits of masculine & feminine energy & it is what it is. The more we learn about the differences, the better we can understand each other.

It’s a great skill to learn how to balance both energies within yourself, as each sex has both masculine & feminine energies.

When he is not choosing you, it could mean that you are not the one for him or he’s not in a space to do the inner work to know that he is deserving of the gift that the universe has delivered to him.

The gift is the union of your 2 souls being brought together for a higher purpose.

If he/she can’t embrace it then you are better off opening yourself up to someone who knows they are deserving. There is no need for resentment. Remember “He’s just not that into me” means nothing about me at all.

You are whole perfect & complete,  as are they. They are just not ready to accept that truth for themselves.

When I remove the emotional attachment & the crazy story that there is something wrong with me, that I’m not loveable & or that I am not enough, I can turn it around and have love & compassion for someone who is forgetting who they are in truth.

If I can encourage him to feel the love for even just one moment, then the purpose for us coming together has been served.

I am love & light. My purpose is to shine my light on this world. I can only do that when I am living in love myself.