I received the perfect lesson of how busyness creates deep blockages to LOVE!
I woke up today feeling filled with love & abundance. I decided to extend it outward to a friend who had expressed to me that he has been feeling overwhelmed & stressed by his life. I forwarded (via text) a beautiful inspirational quote, which was about 2 sentences in length. What I received back was not what I imagined. I received a series of 5 different text messages telling me how my forward was imposing on their time, they were too busy in their day to stop & read quotes. I think it’s easy to see that the intention behind me sending the message was lost in translation. I can’t say for sure what they were thinking/feeling but I do know that the text messages that I received in return were not an extension of love. Which could only mean, they were in fear mode.
Anytime we choose to react from a place other than love, it is based on fear!
Another great example of a similar interaction was shared with me during a coaching session. ( I was working with an adult male, who was processing his experience by going back to his childhood memories)
A little boy was playing outside by himself and found a rock that he was very excited to share with his father. He brought it into the house and excitedly started to tell his story about his special rock that he had found. The boys’ father was working on his computer at the time and decided that he was too busy with work to pay any attention. Without breaking his gaze from his computer screen, he shushed his son and asked him to keep playing outside, letting him know that dad is too busy with work.
That little boy is now a grown man & remembers that day vividly in his memory. Little did he or his dad realize, that that moment would be a defining moment in his life. That was a day that that little boy created a core belief in himself. He told himself that he can’t do anything right & that nothing he does is good enough.
Children innately make everything about them. That is what we all do as children. We all walk around today, as adults, with a series of core beliefs about the self that we created at a very young age. Then we walk into the world trying to gather evidence that this is true about us. This happens on a subconscious level.
Thankfully there is only ONE truth. I am Love and so are you!
If we all chose to live from a place of love and peace, we would understand that busyness stems from a whole bunch of useless thoughts.
“If I don’t finish this project by…..”
“I need to get this file in by….”
“I have to get this client to sign…”
“I need to close this sale…”
Those are all fear-based thoughts. What if they didn’t get done exactly as you planned? Believe me, nothing “bad” would happen. The world would still revolve & you will survive. You will still be love & light, whole, perfect & complete.
If the sale didn’t get closed today, it wasn’t meant to close today. Don’t cause yourself harm by forgetting that the universe never makes mistakes. This doesn’t mean that we walk through our day unmotivated, it is okay to have a guideline. The key is to not give away your peace trying to attain something. The sole purpose would be lost.
I get it, this all sounds easier said than done. Go easy on yourself, you didn’t build these blocks to love overnight so it will take some time & practice to chisel away at the blocks.
Busyness starts and ends in our minds….we are perceiving that something needs to be completed now!
Meditation is an excellent way to clear those busy thoughts and ideas out of your mind. I sit in stillness and embrace all thoughts to pass through, I then choose the ones that don’t serve me and kindly escort them out of my mind.
This exercise of the mind brings me a clearer awareness of the things that bring me true happiness and joy in life.
For me, that is bringing a smile upon a persons face, laughing, connecting…. I can be doing this while I close the sale!
I believe that most parents intentions are to provide their children with a loving and nurturing environment to grow up in. You as the parent need to create that for yourself first before you can provide it for someone else.
This is just a gentle reminder to all of you to love yourself first. Relax, and enjoy life. Busyness and stress cause physical and mental harm to you and those around you. There is nothing loving about that! If you forget, don’t be hard on yourself, dust yourself off and choose a peaceful path.
Remember that your most important “job” in life brings you, Love and Peace!
